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Bargaining is “An agreement between parties settling what each shall give and take or perform and receive in a transaction.”

Most are familiar with the word bargain. The word bargain brings to mind intense transactions that occur in a boardroom or in some marketplace.

 

Or perhaps conjures up images of deals on retail products, “Bargain Shopping”.

Although we typically think of bargaining in the typical sense of market exchange, and as a positive, there is a negative side of bargaining.

In relation to achievement, bargaining can carry a more negative connotation.

When bargaining includes a willingness to exchange one’s priorities, health, or values for what one believes will fast track or enhance one’s growth,  one’s come up, or success then bargaining becomes extremely negative.

Sadly, the success that comes from such is usually short-lived, as one essentially manipulates their way to the top.

“Some people become incredibly good at playing the bargaining game. For many, the manipulation rarely fails them in any meaningful way” (Hanson 149)

while bargaining is essentially negative, it does not necessarily impede success, but just muddies the water and cheapens that success and achievement.

Those who go unfazed by the substance of their success, continue to bargain their way to succeed.

At some point as an individual, you have to decide what success means to you and by what means and measures you are willing to go to achieve success.

It is my belief that to get the best out of life one does not bargain everything away to achieve it.

Every time we bargain we lose a little of ourselves and thus some of our freedom.

Sometimes the price is just too high.

Besides, price is never a true indicator of value. While the price may create perceived value, perceived value is just that a matter of perception not an actual indicator of real value.

No matter how much you are willing to pay for something does not make it any more valuable. It is just an indicator of the lengths that you as an individual are willing to go to possess something.

“The only things in life of real value and meaning are achieved without condition, without transactions” (Hanson 149)

You have to ask yourself what are you shooting for, what is it really worth, and is it worth bargaining away everything.

If you want real and authentic success, refuse to bargain those things away that are essential and important to you such as; your character, values, priorities, and self-worth. 

Hanson, Mark. Everything is #@%!ed a Book About Hope. New York: NY, Harpers and

Collins Publishers.

Achievement requires a considerable amount of effort and tenacity, as progressing towards any goal exercises one’s endurance. First, there is the energy required to pursue a venture. Dreams do not fulfill themselves but are rather catalyzed by will and commitment.  Dreams are thrust forward by unmitigated desire. And once momentum is built, steadying the pace and staying the course requires refueling. Then there are the obstacles; setbacks, opposition, and losses that require additional bursts of energy. The pressure can be unrelenting, but success is the reward of those that stick with the goal.

No one would disagree that excelling beyond mediocrity without a strong work ethic and driving desire is improbable. But there would, however, be varying viewpoints on the significance of rest as it relates to success. Some proffer that rest has its place but has no ultimate bearing on success. This ideology supports the fallacy that the more or harder you work the better the outcome. This is a pure falsehood.

 Proper rest is a sustaining force that empowers one to work diligently, with sharp focus. Nothing can work constantly, infinitely, and especially not effectively without recharging. The consistent use of anything will cause wear and tear. This is true of everything with the ability to work, especially the human body. Recuperation provides you with energy to pour into your ambitions.

As a wife, mother, and achiever, I know how it is so easy to neglect proper rest and care. However, the glaring truth is, if not allowed to rest, the end is a total cessation of the ability to work. Your dreams do not work if you cannot work.

Beyond a certain point, it does not matter how much work one will put into achieving a goal, the results will be ineffective, and the outcome minimal. This is the effect of the law of diminishing returns.

 The more one refuses to rest the greater the strain on the body and mind. As a result, quality decreases, mistakes increase, and the results become substandard. Author Martin Meadows sums this up eloquently.

Rest reinvigorates and drives progress. As a mother, wife, and entrepreneur I continue to remind myself daily, don’t be afraid to rest, in fact, embrace it. There is only one you.

 

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Everyone wants a cheerleader, a support system, someone that will push you through the toughest times.

Creating change and moving toward goal achievement is not an easy process.

Sometimes it takes a little more oomph than you feel you have.

Your energy reserves may be low. Your spirit is waxing and waning. You simply feel that you have done all you can.

All you really need is that one extra push to get you through the thick of it.

The fact is, there will not always be somewhere there to cheer you on.

There will not always be someone there to push you to move beyond mediocrity to greatness.

And sometimes it may seem that people are doing the very opposite. Rather than giving you a hand up they become the very obstacles that threaten to bring you down.

Those are the times when you have to apply your strongest effort. You have to be your own cheerleader. You have to remind yourself of your purpose, of  “why” the dream is so important to you.

But how?

During your most proactive, most energized, and focused moments create a self-talk journal whether it be on paper or audio. In that journal remind yourself of why you are doing what you are doing. Talk about who you are. Complement and encourage yourself.

When you begin to struggle to push forward read or play those journals back to yourself. Use them as a method of motivation.

Become your own cheerleader. 

 

 

You have to push forward even when no one is cheering for you.

You can do it, I believe in you!

One of the worst words to ever enter an achievers vocabulary is the word try.

Trying simply indicates a minimalist mindset.

To say that one “will try” indicates a weak intention to commit to a goal.

The person who is merely always trying to apply action or commit to change masks his or her true intentions.

My grandfather once said that before a person acts he or she has already mapped out their intentions within their mind.

Thus, when one says that he or she will try, he or she has no solid desire or premise to act or move forward.

As harmless as this word may seem it is the ultimate reason for escape and is the biggest excuse for inaction.

“Majority of excuses are deliberate attempts to keep success far away. Eventually, the success goes away because that is the command “excuses” gave out; “pack and go”!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

Yoda once said there is no try, there is only do or don’t do.

“The point is that when we say we are trying we don’t really have to do anything. It also provides us with an excuse for why we didn’t accomplish the outcome we say we want” (Hyatt).

However, there is no between for those who wish to succeed.

Success is built on continual efforts, progress, and action.

You must make a decision to do what is necessary with passion and intention, not half-heartedly.

One who wants to reach any level of success he or she must do more than just try.

“Greatness does not come from trying to achieve the possible.”
― Constance Friday

We must speak to those things which we most desire. What we say is a manifestation of what we think or innately believe.

If you believe that you are an achiever speak and act as such.  Speak to your forthcoming success.

Replace the word “try” in your vocabulary with “will or can.” In every way exhibit the success you wish to manifest.

 

Reference:

Hyatt, Michael. ” Difference Between Trying and Doing.” Web.

https://michaelhyatt.com/the-difference-between-trying-and-doing/. Retrieved 18

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Achievement does not come easy, it is almost always the result of work, “mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result” (Merriam Webster).

However, there are levels of effort.

One can put in as little or as much effort as he or she deems necessary.

Assuredly, nothing is accomplished without some minimal level of effort.

If your desire is an achievement of any kind, you must exert some effort.

No one else is going to make your dream a reality but you.

There is no genie that is going to make all your dreams come true, it is solely up to you.

Your level of achievement is solely dependent on the amount of applied effort.

Thus, to begin, one must decide on the level of achievement they desire. Then,  one must apply the action necessary to achieve it.

Greater and lasting achievement typically requires the application of greater effort.

This type of effort is what is referred to as grinding.

Grinding is not pleasant.

” It applies to physical or intellectual work involving great and often strenuous exertion” (Merriam Webster).

Grinding requires a lot of a person. It requires one to move beyond his or her comfort zone and implies exhausting all possible avenues to become successful. It means “never letting up, staying on top of things, being consistent, showing up, and putting in the work” (Merriam Webster).

Grinding means, working, especially when you don’t feel like it.

Ultimately, it is consistently pushing oneself to new limits.

It is an absolutely necessary ingredient for high achievers.

Your results will always reveal your efforts.

The achievement always goes to those who put in the work.

I challenge you to get out there and grind.