Inspiraelevation

For many, this is a difficult time in their lives.

It is a period of redefinition.

We are coming face to face with who we really are.

We are finally still long enough.

We are finally alone.

We finally have no choice but to face how we have been living life and seeing the dissonance between what we do and who we really are.

The truth is, we have let our roles define us. We have exhausted ourselves in an effort to fulfill those roles.  We have become almost inseparable from those roles. When asked who we are, we are quick to say that we are teachers, students, parents, wives, husbands, children, etc…

Many can’t answer otherwise. Our identities are all wrapped up in those roles. It is painful to consider that we have lost ourselves. We spend most of our lives building and pouring into those things.

For a lot of people, including myself,  when they can no longer do those things or are in danger of losing those roles, we feel lost, empty, confused, and unsure.

It’s hard to find your way beyond that.

I can’t tell you how many tears I have shed and that I am still shedding.

The work only starts when we get alone, dig deep, go back to basics  and  redefine who  we are apart from those things that have taken center stage in our lives

The work is cumbersome.

This is a journey I am on now.

Some days I am exhausted and lost. Other days I start to see glimmers of who I am. I become reinvigorated and excited. I start to feel a sense of freedom and hope.

Self-discovery is a process and not an easy one. I believe it will be worth it.

There are blessings in every unfortunate situation.

Conditions and events in the world today are unfortunate, but I believe that there is a lesson and a blessing that will come out of this. There is something for each and every one of us.

I encourage you to take this time, a time when you are separated from those roles that have defined you and rediscover who you are apart from those things. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by what you find. If not then you know have the raw resources you need to build yourself into the person you always wanted to be.

Sometimes you must be resigned to the fact that there are things that you just do not know.

Life is a mystery.

No matter how many configurations or solutions that we come up with, life will always give us more puzzles to solve. The one thing we can be certain of is that there will always be an unknown.

This can be a scary concept.

I, myself, like to have some measure of control in my life.

I can admit that sometimes I get too comfortable in assuming how much control I actually have.

That sense of control gives me a sense of well-being or comfort.

When disruptions occur, I lose my sense of well-being, and I become imbalanced. The longer the disruption, it seems the more unglued I become.

Honestly, I feel lost, just lost.

I find it hard to admit that. I find it hard to say I am lost, that I need time and most of all that I need help.

But I am learning that it’s okay to admit that.

I am undergoing a process.

I have to take it slow. 

 The lessons are coming fast and hard. It’s like a crash course with an examination that you are in no way prepared for. But I’m learning.
One of the most important takeaways is that I have to let go.

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I am sure that when I come out of this, I will be different. I will see the world through different eyes and that’s okay too.

I challenge you to release the grip.  Develop, learn, and recreate the life that you want.

What do you have to lose?

 

There is a deep pain that comes with feeling alone.

Loneliness is something many people suffer from although surrounded by many people.

There is this underlining feeling that many people have. I know I have felt this way a lot.

This has been quite a phenomenon to many. How can you possibly feel lonely when surrounded by so many people?

Truth is,  knowing more people or being surrounded by more people does not equate to happiness, satisfaction, or peace.

But, we are actually never truly alone in this world. There are many people who share our experiences, who are traversing the same path as we are. But we don’t always see them or hold conversations with them, and because they are not there in our moments of greatest need it is like they don’t exist.

The very sad thing is some of us leave the world without ever feeling that they are appreciated, understood, or truly loved. This is because oftentimes people wait until people leave or depart this world to openly express how much they appreciated, understood, or loved the people in their lives.

Conversely, often people never reach out to discover how people truly feel about them.

Humans are not mindreaders.

There are very few telepaths if any (that’s material for a different time).

So what we want others to know we have to tell them.

What we want or need we have to seek and ask for.

In this time of crisis, I have had moments when I felt alone, and my situation and circumstances misunderstood. It was only after openly expressing my feelings with my significant other that  I gained a more accurate awareness.

Although I could not see them, or feel them, or even talk to them, there were people who were in my corner who were praying for and thinking of me.

Initially, I  did not know that because they never reached out to me directly. Thus, my perception, although very real to me, was skewed.

But to think, if I had never implored, I would never have discovered.  I would have gone on thinking I was alone. They will have gone on thinking that I was aware of their concern.

During times especially as these, it is important that we let others know that they are not alone, that we share each other’s pain. It is equally important if you are in pain to reach out to someone.

While it seems trivial to some it can be a matter of life and death.

There is no time like the present to reach out.

Times of Uncertainty come upon us and catch us unaware.

Right now we are living in one of the most uncertain moments in history, and there is not one person who is not being affected.

It is testing the depth of our resolve, of our humanity.

The truth is, it is only in moments like these that we find out what we are really made of.

We get to the bare bones of it all.

Do we have hope, or are we like ships lost at sea?

Do we have faith or are we faithless?

On what or in who do we trust?

Are our houses built of sticks or stones?

Moments like these test all the notions we have had and bring about revelations that we could have never fathomed

It is in these times that others see how prepared we really are.

The funny thing is, we never really know or uncover the truth until we dig deep or have no choice but to get underneath it all.

Those discoveries present valuable opportunities to make the changes that are necessary for your life, opportunities to live a more authentic and fulfilling existence.

Everyone has roots, a source, a beginning.

This is not a concept that is purely understood in the context of genealogy.

When dissecting success one can see a strong connection to fundamentals, the core of that success. One can see the roots.

Having roots is important, but sometimes we forget just how important it is. We become so consumed with growing and the speed at which we can achieve and accomplish something that we don’t take the time to establish strong roots.

This is something that cannot be taken lightly.

Yesterday through meditation I was reminded of this very thing.

There is a parable that is often recounted that paints a vivid picture of a seed without roots.

In the parable, a sower goes out to disperse seed,

^” Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly because the soil was shallow.  But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root.”

Having roots means you are grounded. There is something foundational there that will nourish and sustain you through tough times. Without roots, it is easy to give up because there is nothing holding you in place. It is easy to burn out.

Although you may grow, and that growth may be phenomenal, it is so easy to lose it all when there is no base upon which to rebuild.

That is detrimental.

Not everyone has deep roots, or roots firmly implanted in good soil, which keeps a tree (person) anchored. That is why knowing one’s roots and the reach of those roots is important. Obtaining that knowledge is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

If your foundation is weak or lacking you can always build and create a stronger foundation. You can strengthen your connection to the source.

Putting in work is necessary.

The new habits that you will form, the principles you will learn will form a base for your continued success.