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Sometimes you must be resigned to the fact that there are things that you just do not know.

Life is a mystery.

No matter how many configurations or solutions that we come up with, life will always give us more puzzles to solve. The one thing we can be certain of is that there will always be an unknown.

This can be a scary concept.

I, myself, like to have some measure of control in my life.

I can admit that sometimes I get too comfortable in assuming how much control I actually have.

That sense of control gives me a sense of well-being or comfort.

When disruptions occur, I lose my sense of well-being, and I become imbalanced. The longer the disruption, it seems the more unglued I become.

Honestly, I feel lost, just lost.

I find it hard to admit that. I find it hard to say I am lost, that I need time and most of all that I need help.

But I am learning that it’s okay to admit that.

I am undergoing a process.

I have to take it slow. 

 The lessons are coming fast and hard. It’s like a crash course with an examination that you are in no way prepared for. But I’m learning.
One of the most important takeaways is that I have to let go.

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I am sure that when I come out of this, I will be different. I will see the world through different eyes and that’s okay too.

I challenge you to release the grip.  Develop, learn, and recreate the life that you want.

What do you have to lose?

 

There is a deep pain that comes with feeling alone.

Loneliness is something many people suffer from although surrounded by many people.

There is this underlining feeling that many people have. I know I have felt this way a lot.

This has been quite a phenomenon to many. How can you possibly feel lonely when surrounded by so many people?

Truth is,  knowing more people or being surrounded by more people does not equate to happiness, satisfaction, or peace.

But, we are actually never truly alone in this world. There are many people who share our experiences, who are traversing the same path as we are. But we don’t always see them or hold conversations with them, and because they are not there in our moments of greatest need it is like they don’t exist.

The very sad thing is some of us leave the world without ever feeling that they are appreciated, understood, or truly loved. This is because oftentimes people wait until people leave or depart this world to openly express how much they appreciated, understood, or loved the people in their lives.

Conversely, often people never reach out to discover how people truly feel about them.

Humans are not mindreaders.

There are very few telepaths if any (that’s material for a different time).

So what we want others to know we have to tell them.

What we want or need we have to seek and ask for.

In this time of crisis, I have had moments when I felt alone, and my situation and circumstances misunderstood. It was only after openly expressing my feelings with my significant other that  I gained a more accurate awareness.

Although I could not see them, or feel them, or even talk to them, there were people who were in my corner who were praying for and thinking of me.

Initially, I  did not know that because they never reached out to me directly. Thus, my perception, although very real to me, was skewed.

But to think, if I had never implored, I would never have discovered.  I would have gone on thinking I was alone. They will have gone on thinking that I was aware of their concern.

During times especially as these, it is important that we let others know that they are not alone, that we share each other’s pain. It is equally important if you are in pain to reach out to someone.

While it seems trivial to some it can be a matter of life and death.

There is no time like the present to reach out.

Times of Uncertainty come upon us and catch us unaware.

Right now we are living in one of the most uncertain moments in history, and there is not one person who is not being affected.

It is testing the depth of our resolve, of our humanity.

The truth is, it is only in moments like these that we find out what we are really made of.

We get to the bare bones of it all.

Do we have hope, or are we like ships lost at sea?

Do we have faith or are we faithless?

On what or in who do we trust?

Are our houses built of sticks or stones?

Moments like these test all the notions we have had and bring about revelations that we could have never fathomed

It is in these times that others see how prepared we really are.

The funny thing is, we never really know or uncover the truth until we dig deep or have no choice but to get underneath it all.

Those discoveries present valuable opportunities to make the changes that are necessary for your life, opportunities to live a more authentic and fulfilling existence.

Everyone has roots, a source, a beginning.

This is not a concept that is purely understood in the context of genealogy.

When dissecting success one can see a strong connection to fundamentals, the core of that success. One can see the roots.

Having roots is important, but sometimes we forget just how important it is. We become so consumed with growing and the speed at which we can achieve and accomplish something that we don’t take the time to establish strong roots.

This is something that cannot be taken lightly.

Yesterday through meditation I was reminded of this very thing.

There is a parable that is often recounted that paints a vivid picture of a seed without roots.

In the parable, a sower goes out to disperse seed,

^” Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly because the soil was shallow.  But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root.”

Having roots means you are grounded. There is something foundational there that will nourish and sustain you through tough times. Without roots, it is easy to give up because there is nothing holding you in place. It is easy to burn out.

Although you may grow, and that growth may be phenomenal, it is so easy to lose it all when there is no base upon which to rebuild.

That is detrimental.

Not everyone has deep roots, or roots firmly implanted in good soil, which keeps a tree (person) anchored. That is why knowing one’s roots and the reach of those roots is important. Obtaining that knowledge is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

If your foundation is weak or lacking you can always build and create a stronger foundation. You can strengthen your connection to the source.

Putting in work is necessary.

The new habits that you will form, the principles you will learn will form a base for your continued success.

We all have heard of influencers, people who have the uncanny knack of getting people to follow them.

They lead the pack and are highly sought after by marketers.

Gladwell expounds on this topic and shares profound knowledge on influencer’s and his or her role in making an idea viral in his book, The Tipping Point.

In The Tipping Point, this is what Malcolm Gladwell had to say

“There are exceptional people out there who are capable of starting epidemics. All you have to do is find them” (Goodreads).

They are out there, but the fact is the sheer number of the influenced outweigh the influencers.

It is so easy to jump on somebody else’s bandwagon because it is already moving.

But riding someone else’s momentum will never bring you to achieve what you set out to achieve. It may get you to a destination faster but not necessarily your destination, and definitely not on your own merits.

You must be the person capable of ” starting epidemics.”

Building your dream and legacy and becoming the architect of your dream’s means being an influencer not being the one influenced.

It means avoiding the herd mentality, the desire to follow.

“You must create your own herd and get others to join it” – Gladwell David & Goliath

“Successful people are really herd creators and herd movers.” Gladwell David & Goliath

It is more than worth it from time to time to stop and take inventory. Ask yourself the important questions.

• Am I riding the trend or am I setting the trend?
• Do I often find myself going with the flow?
• Do I often echo the sentiment of the majority?
• Do I wait for others to weigh in before I make up my mind?
• Do the perceptions and ideas of others drive me?
• Am I a follower or a leader?
• Am I a master builder or just a bricklayer?

If you find yourself answering the affirmative to any of these it is probably time to make changes.

It is time to explore who you really are apart from everyone else and stand up and be that person.

Don’t let others hold sway over you.

“Look at the world around you. It may seem like an immovable, implacable place. It is not. With the slightest push—in just the right place—it can be tipped” – Gladwell (Goodreads).

You are the master of your soul the captain of your sea.

As echoed in the lyrics of Believer by Imagine Dragons

When you are sick and tired of building the dreams of others, with the way things are, then you will be ready to be an influencer and ready to tip the world on its axis.

Lyrics to Believer by Imagine Dragons

First things first
I’ ma say all the words inside my head
I’m fired up and tired of the way that things have been, oh ooh
The way that things have been, oh ooh
Second thing second
Don’t you tell me what you think that I can be
I’m the one at the sail, I’m the master of my sea, oh ooh
The master of my sea, oh ooh

Works Cited

Goodreads. “The Tipping Point Quotes.” Web.

https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2124255-the-tipping-point-how-little-things-can-make-a-big-difference

Gladwell Malcolm. David & Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants.

London; England, The Penguin Group.