Inspiraelevation

We have entered a time and space of awakening or uncovering. Our footsteps are heavier, our whispers are magnified, a light is being shined in places that were once cast in shadow. People are being unmasked to reveal who they truly are. There is nothing that is done that can be hidden.

At the same time we are all being called to action. We are called upon to make a stand; to take a side. We are called on to demonstrate what it is we believe, the strength of our resolve, our mettle. Your voice, your actions, and your inaction are all significant, because even your silence is speaking volumes, sometimes speaking louder than words.

. We all must do something.

We all must do our part.

Now is the time to shape the world and mold it into what we want it to be.

John F. Kennedy said it best in a 1963 commencement address he made to American University.

“We shall also do our part to build a world of peace where the weak are safe and the strong are just. We are not helpless before that task or hopeless of its success. Confident and unafraid, we must labor on–not towards a strategy of annihilation but towards a strategy of peace. Too many of us think it is impossible. Too many think it is unreal. But that is a dangerous, defeatist belief.  We need not accept that view. Our problems are man-made; therefore, they can be solved by man. “

We must do what is in our power to do from our sphere of influence. There are no small efforts.

Works Cited

John F. Kennedy Presidential Library and Museum. Commencement Address at American

University, Washington D.C., June 10, 1963. Web.

https://www.jfklibrary.org/archives/other-resources/john-f-kennedy-speeches/american-university-19630610

Franklin D. Roosevelt, in his first inaugural address once uttered one of the most moving phrases in history. As he stood accepting his role as newly appointed president of the United States he said,  “So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”

No truer words have ever been spoken.

Fear can be a great paralyzer, for even when there is nothing to be really afraid of just the thought of the worst case scenario coming true is enough to stop you dead in your tracks.

It is always the What if?

9 times out of 10 the worst case scenario never happens. The fear is always bigger than the actual outcome.

You will not know this until you take action.

I cannot tell you how many times I have feared something, refused to act, and as a result missed out.

But I can also tell you of the times when I pushed forward despite the fear and realized that my perception was way over exaggerated. As a result of pushing forward, I received a massive benefit

Roosevelt went on to say in his speech, “These dark days will be worth all they cost us if they teach us that our true destiny is not to be ministered unto but to minister to ourselves and to our fellow men.”

This is so relevant in our times.

So I say in encouragement to you. Don’t let fear keep you from getting all the things you deserve.

Yes, things don’t always workout.

More times than not they do, but you will never know until you try.

Works Cited:

History Matters. “Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself”: FDR’s First Inaugural Address.

Web. http://historymatters.gmu.edu/d/5057/%20.

Ask for help

As humans, we sometimes think that we have all the answers.

Often one of the hardest things to do is to ask for help.

In hindsight it always seems so easy. It is oh so easy to judge others who don’t ask for help when they so desperately need it.

Realistically it can be difficult to ask for help. We never really know until we have had the shoe on the other foot. I know from first-hand experience because I have worn that shoe.

Some typical reasons for this behavior is shame, ego, or a proud spirit.

Ego and a proud spirit go hand in hand. With this type of thinking one puts one’s self-importance above everything. Much of their self-worth is wrapped in what people think of them

For those people asking for help seems to crush their spirit or sense of value. They have an unrealistic view of themselves. They fear that letting others know they need help will make them seem lesser.

We are all in this thing called life together. We all need help sometimes.

There are others whose mistakes or misfortunes bring about a cloak of shame.

To ask for help will expose their vulnerabilities and unmask them, leaving the world seeing a side that they are not proud of . When it comes to needing help there should be no shame.

These all pose obstacles to seeking the help truly needed, when we truly need it, and it can be damaging.

One’s health and well-being often requires seeking help when it is most needed.

I want to motivate you to make a promise to yourself. Promise that when you most need it that you will seek help.

One of the most important things in life is knowing yourself and being true to who that person is.  That is the exact definition of integrity.

When you have integrity, you are the same person wherever you are.

You are not pushed or pulled or swayed. You are yourself, authentic to the core.

That means knowing your limitations and sticking to those limitations.

Be aware when seeking to maintain your integrity and your limitations of influential creep.

A wise person once proposed that you can know the essence of a person’s character by knowing their circle of friends.  Often those people who we most commune with tend to have the greatest impact on our lives, our thinking, our behaviors, and our habits.

 

If you aspire to be better, you have to build a circle of people who aspire to be better.

Would you believe it if I said that one person could work all their lives to build a certain standard? But, by simply moving into a new circle of friends, despite how many years they may have held to a standard, a poor influence can weaken that resolve?

Would you believe it if I told you that even if you kept to certain principles for years, it only takes a few days to deconstruct all that you have built?

Beware of influential creep

Influential creep is when little by little your circle of influence begins to impact and shape who you are. If you are not careful you can become someone that you don’t recognize and even someone you don’t like.

I know first-hand accounts of people whose lives have been flipped upside down simply by choosing the wrong circle of friends. People who were once healthy and whole became broken, struggling to get their lives back.

Their lives will never be the same.

There is more than enough pain and suffering in life.

Be wary of the people that you let come into your life. The wrong people will leave dirty footprints in your mind.

you have to resolve;

Those type of people will make you doubt all that you have done to be the person you have worked to be. Some things you just can’t come back from.

 

For many, this is a difficult time in their lives.

It is a period of redefinition.

We are coming face to face with who we really are.

We are finally still long enough.

We are finally alone.

We finally have no choice but to face how we have been living life and seeing the dissonance between what we do and who we really are.

The truth is, we have let our roles define us. We have exhausted ourselves in an effort to fulfill those roles.  We have become almost inseparable from those roles. When asked who we are, we are quick to say that we are teachers, students, parents, wives, husbands, children, etc…

Many can’t answer otherwise. Our identities are all wrapped up in those roles. It is painful to consider that we have lost ourselves. We spend most of our lives building and pouring into those things.

For a lot of people, including myself,  when they can no longer do those things or are in danger of losing those roles, we feel lost, empty, confused, and unsure.

It’s hard to find your way beyond that.

I can’t tell you how many tears I have shed and that I am still shedding.

The work only starts when we get alone, dig deep, go back to basics  and  redefine who  we are apart from those things that have taken center stage in our lives

The work is cumbersome.

This is a journey I am on now.

Some days I am exhausted and lost. Other days I start to see glimmers of who I am. I become reinvigorated and excited. I start to feel a sense of freedom and hope.

Self-discovery is a process and not an easy one. I believe it will be worth it.

There are blessings in every unfortunate situation.

Conditions and events in the world today are unfortunate, but I believe that there is a lesson and a blessing that will come out of this. There is something for each and every one of us.

I encourage you to take this time, a time when you are separated from those roles that have defined you and rediscover who you are apart from those things. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by what you find. If not then you know have the raw resources you need to build yourself into the person you always wanted to be.