“It is through the strength of what is genuine that meaningful connections build into relationships.”
Nothing else will stand.
People can sense a facade from miles away. So, authenticity is important.
“You can only lean against something strong” – Tamsen Webster.
Draw People with Genuine Conversation
When approaching someone you wish to join your team, use your service, or become a long-time client, have a genuine conversation.
As Shawn Q said in a powerful forum,
“Don’t be a salesperson be a professional. Professionals create an experience a client will never forget.”
Communicate Effectively
Treat people with respect.
Treat them as individuals, who have their own unique experiences, likes, loves, and interests. People are not cookies. So don’t use cookie cutter approaches.
Be genuinely interested.
But, listen above all.
Find out who the person is you want to welcome on to your team, to become your client, that you wish to serve.
“Make having a conversation with you irresistibly valuable.”- Shawn Q
How you Communicate can Draw people or Push Them Away
Be careful with how you communicate.
Remember It’s not only what you say, but it’s how you say it.
“The words you use in your communication will determine the chances of your next meeting with the person!” – Anuj Jasani.
You want the next meeting because that is why you are there in the first place. So, with every person you meet, be intentional. Be true. Above all be you!
And if you really want to draw people,
Do not sell serve
Don’t tell ask
Do not push Help
Do not control Lead – Shawn Q.
You will be surprised who you will draw.
This is a guarantee!
People are drawn to the light, so be the light they need!
Goals, Goals, Goals I know you have heard mentioned a thousand times before, so here is to a thousand and one. Yes, I know it can be repetitive. Repetition is good; it is the seed of automaticity, which is what you want. You want to make the idea of setting goals second nature. However, this article is not about setting goals (per se).
A Secret!
This article is about one big secret! A secret to manifesting turning your dreams into reality.
Wishes are what we hope beyond reason will happen.
Dreams are the things we think are possible but have not yet set on a path to achieve.
However, there is one thing that can turn those dreams into reality.
Do you wish to know the secret?
The primary ingredient in the recipe for manifesting your biggest, wildest, and most extraordinary dreams is…
What is it already!
Okay, I relent
The primary ingredient to jump-start the manifestation process is … Writing down your goals!
Write it Down!
That is it; write your goals down. (Not complicated at all, right?)
For many, it is because, frankly, in the days of automation, texting, and keyboarding, writing can seem cumbersome.
Nevertheless, for this to work, you must write your goals down!
But I hate to write
Can I type it: (No, you must write it)
Maybe I can set a recording: (No, you must write it)
By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be.
Are you convinced yet?
More reasons to support writing
An article from Lifehack.org has this to say on the importance of writing things down,
“When we write something down, research suggests that as far as our brain is concerned, it’s as if we were doing that thing. Writing seems to act as a kind of mini-rehearsal for doing”
Writing increases our capacity for acting.
Do you need a little more?
How about a little statistical evidence.
According to Peter Drucker,
People who write down their goals are 42% more likely to achieve them than those who don’t.
While those are not staggering numbers, those numbers are pretty significant and telling. Your likelihood of manifesting your dreams increases simply by writing them down.
The Follow-up Question.
So you are saying all I have to write my goals down?
Hold up! Wait a Minute!
I am certainly not saying that.
You cannot merely write down your goals and forget them.
Throwing the paper in some obscure place and expecting this to work for you is a no-go.
Don’t think you can use the paper as a coaster for your drinks and expect it to work for you.
Remarkably, writing it down is step one to solidify something real is happening here. However consistent action pulls the trigger catalyzing the manifestation process.
Breaking Down What happens after you write
Once your goals are written, you must keep them in front of you. As someone once said,
“Write down your goals and review them often, don’t let them fade away.”
Because out of sight out of mind.
Another Challenge
So I am challenging you to take Massive Action.
While it is fresh in your mind, you are inspired, and the light bulb is still on, write your goals down with immediacy.
Without a doubt, you can refine it later.
Please write it down.
Additionally, place it somewhere you can prominently see it.
When we talk about preparing for success, we are talking about cultivating an atmosphere internal and external to increase the potential of succeeding.
This process is non-negotiable.
Priming the Pump
Some may remember the term to prime the pump.
Those who aren’t familiar perhaps want to know what does the phrase priming the pump means? Essentially it means pumping the water to remove all old sediment and residue before filling your glass.
We must prime the pump to get the best water.
We must rid ourselves of the sludge that clogs up the pipelines and slows down our progress, if not outright stops it. Sometimes this requires a reset or grounding.
Reset and Grounding: Precursor to the Cleanse
Get rid of all the impurities; the impurities of thought and the environment.
Wipe the slate clean.
What is the slate?
Your slate is your mind!
You see, what an individual thinks they become. Remember the power of words.
So as creative spirits, we have the power to call things into existence using our tongues.
Therefore don’t bite the poisoned apple (it’s toxic)
Good Fruit vs. Rotten Fruit
Good fruit arises from good seeds.
Poorly established seeds render rotten fruit or no fruit.
To get rid of toxic elements, you must take yourself through a process of Detox.
What is a Detox?
Detox is the process of purification. It is the elimination of toxic elements that are harmful to an organism’s state.
Why Detox?
Before you can dive headfirst into strategizing and planning you must set yourself up to win. This requires developing behaviors consistent with success ( the right mindset)
So to do this, you must detox.
What does Cleansing entail?
Look at everything you are allowing into your life.
Determine if the seeds that fall into your consciousness’s soil are negative or positive.
Are those things empowering or destructive?
Do they charge you or drain you?
Do you leave with more than what you arrived with?
If those things are positive, empower, drive, encourage, and grow you, then keep them and use those things to improve you daily.
If those things are negative, discouraging, draining, subtracting, or adding nothing, then you must detox from them ASAP.
“What’s the most effective detox program? Distancing yourself from self-destructive thoughts, behaviors, and people.” ― Charles F Glassman
Why the urgency?
The seeds you allow to take root, as they are watered, grow until they are full-grown and almost impossible to root up.
The more you stay around the negative influences, the more negative you will become.
Though you may not realize it, that poisoned seed will poison the entire tree rendering it suitable for nothing.
“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life” – Robin Sharma
Final Words On Detoxing
As you are in the dream building process. Take inventory and take it well.
Examine everything in your life.
Some things will be harder to detox from than others, but there are ways it can be done!
Please take this seriously; your fulfillment depends on it. Give your dreams a chance to live.
A Mind-blowing reminder
In one of his messages, Les Brown offers this very eye-opening story.
He asks his listeners to imagine that your life is drawing to a conclusion. Imagine as you lay on your bed ready to pass from this life around your bedside is every dream that never got its chance to see fulfillment.
Imagine them standing there in all their fury and sadness. because the only one who could allow them to live did nothing or did the least.
How does that make you feel?
So please don’t let your dreams die.
There is someone incredible out there waiting for the vision you hold within you.
We are not living in a cinematic rendering of “Field of Dreams:” Building is no guarantee, but promotion is everything.
Promotion is the name of the game
As said so many times before, goal achievement/fulfillment occurs as part of a process. Therefore, one must take many steps to get from A to Z. It’s not as easy as the Jackson Five would belt “1,2,3.”
My Word
My goal is to present you with a series of tips and tools that are essential factors in the process of fulfilling your wildest dreams. And as an aside, I also aim to cheer you on. My goal is to serve as your biggest fan as you work to fulfill those dreams.
I Have a Secret and Cannot Keep it.
I want you to know one vital ingredient to the process of achieving success.
What is that, you may ask?
One word says it all, promotion.
This is not for everyone!
Many goals do not need visibility to achieve.
Surely one doesn’t need to put themselves out on a limb to meet the goal of becoming an early riser.
Rather this is for those who dream of launching a business, performing, landing a dream job, finding a partner, finding a solid peer group, or the like. This message is for you.
Promote yourself.
Why is Promotion Necessary
Much as we desire it to be so, our lives do not mimic the movie “Field of Dreams.” Just because you build something doesn’t mean someone will come.
IF you want people to come, take notice, buy, listen, or give you a shot; put yourself in a position to be noticed.
Remember, there are multitudes of people desiring the same things you want. The competition is thick.
So, you must set yourself apart.
You must stand out.
Promote yourself!
Isn’t Self-Promotion Egotistical?
Many people poo-poo self-promotion writing it off as an ill of the wayward ego. This is not the case.
Without a doubt self-promotion can be egotistical, but it doesn’t have to be.
Simple promotion involves inviting the world in to hear your story. It turns the light towards you so that others know you are occupying the stage.
Self-promotion is sticking your courage to the sticking post and proving you deserve what you worked so hard for.
Do I Really Need to Promote Myself?
The answer is YES!
Be assured in this age of mass media, convoluted press junkets, and a sea of information, refusing to make yourself visible is one way to ensure you will drift into obscurity.
People can’t buy what isn’t on the shelf; they can’t eat what hasn’t been served.
You have got to get the book off the computer and in front of publishers. Get the food off the stove and in front of customers/ chefs. Take that audio/video file and submit it. Take your speaker notes and get on stage.
A little Story to Drive home the point
There once was this fantastic singer. She had quite a few pieces floating around in the universe. She was doing the work. Even after all the work she put in, she was still performing on small stages. That didn’t stop her; she kept putting her stuff out into the universe. Then, one day, the scales tipped in her favor by grace, divine favor, or chance.
A record executive who happened to be looking herself up on social media stumbled upon this artist’s work by accident. She was amazed when she listened to her work and called her immediately. She wanted to work with that artist.
It Could Have Been the Other Way
Now imagine if the talented young lady had kept all her songs in her notebook beside her bed.
What if the tracks stayed on her computer for her close friends and family to enjoy?
Well, then there would be nothing in the universe to be found. And she would have missed a massive opportunity.
But by putting her stuff out and promoting it, the opportunity came to her.
She built it, she promoted it, and then the opportunity followed.
A Word to You: Don’t Sleep on the Promotion
Step out, let people know who you are, what you do, and why you do it. Show the gatekeepers you are there and demand to be seen. Then, if you have put in the work and are prepared, all that is left to do is step out.
“In the end, a vision without the ability to execute it is a hallucination” -Steve Case
Once you step out you will be glad you did. Even if you don’t land on the moon, as one would say, you will more than likely land amongst the stars, which is a whole lot better than sitting on your couch wishing.
A Charge to Follow
My charge to you is to promote yourself.
Take massive action.
Wait, this doesn’t mean throwing yourself haphazardly onto the stage.
It means setting a firm date to walk out. Then hold yourself to it.
“Take a tiny step outside of your comfort zone. When you are used to that take another!”
A big part of life is spent trying to control things. Trying to control situations, trying to control circumstances. The funny thing is, the things most in our grasp, we do not reach to control.
We let those things have free rein.
“Les Brown says what you believe affects you on a cellular level.”
Remember, “There will never be a statue erected to a critic” (Les Brown)
A voice within compels us. Either it drives forward movement, or it doesn’t. This voice is different from the guiding voice, the other voice of one’s conscience or spirit.
This voice is either a fan or a critic.
What of the Critic?
Critics pick apart everything. Their critique can be so harsh that your blood runs cold, and you freeze like one captured in the gaze of Medusa. Unfortunately,
“Most People will not participate in their own rescue!”Les Brown.
Don’t be like most people!
The Great Separation
Admittedly the separation is hard. While you may separate yourself from others, it is a lot more challenging to separate yourself from yourself.
Muting the Critic!
There is no remote control for quieting your inner critic. Instead, it takes earnest, consistent efforts.
A lot of how we speak to ourselves results from our programming (hearing the same thing repeatedly and repeatedly) We hear it so many times we begin to identify with it.
As James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, contends,
“You get what you repeat!
When the inner critic is uncontrolled in its takeover it is because you have become engaged in flipped affirmation. Instead of affirming your ability to succeed, your inner voice is involved in active sabotage.
Applying the Muzzle
The only way to muzzle the voice is to engage in the same behavior that built the toxic mindset. So, replace harmful ideologies with positive ones
This is not optional; it is a critical and non-negotiable part of preparing your mindset to
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