You Don’t Get to Prepare for This

It is a strange thing—how something as simple as scrolling can leave a mark.

Endless scrolling is often dismissed, even condemned. It can steal time, pulling us into the lives of others while our own moments slip quietly past. I remember my father questioning me about the hours I spent watching television, reminding me that the time I gave to watching others could be spent becoming something myself. It was a truth I understood even then, though I did not always live by it.

And still, every so often, something breaks through the noise.

Something that lingers.

Something that stays.

The Story That Wouldn’t Leave

A few days ago, in the middle of an ordinary scroll, I came across a story that stilled me.

A mother woke up to what she believed would be a normal day. There was no sign, no warning, no shadow cast ahead of what was to come. She dropped her nine-year-old son off at swim lessons, expecting to return to him—to hear about his progress, to continue life as she knew it.

But life did not continue as she knew it.

Within hours, she received the kind of news that reshapes a world in an instant. Her son had drowned.

Some stories pass through you.

Others take root.

This one settled deep, because I, too, am a mother. My son is eight and a half—close enough in age that the distance between her life and mine felt almost nonexistent. I have stood in similar spaces, made similar considerations, and trusted in ordinary moments the same way she did.

And in that realization, her story stopped being distant.

It became possible.

When Life Changes Without Permission

That moment opened something in me—a quiet unraveling of memory.

I thought of the days that began gently and ended in fracture. The days that offered no warning before becoming something else entirely.

Less than three years ago, I sat on my porch in a rocking chair, my son beside me. We were smiling, suspended in one of those small, perfect moments that feel like they will last longer than they do.

By nightfall, I was in the emergency room—two cracked teeth, a lacerated lip—my children having watched my blood pool onto the sidewalk.

Another day ended with a phone call at 1 a.m.

The kind of call that divides life into before and after.

My little sister was gone. Just months before, I had seen her at Christmas—alive, present, part of the rhythm of my world. And then, without ceremony, she was no longer here.

Even earlier, at twelve years old, I learned how quickly the body can betray what feels steady. After pushing myself at softball practice, I went from strength to sickness within hours—hepatomegaly, multi-organ failure, and a body turning against itself before I could understand what was happening.

Time does not always move gently.

Sometimes it shifts all at once.

Sometimes it only takes a single day—less than 24 hours—for everything to become unfamiliar.

Still Here

And yet—

I am still here.

Still here to remember those moments.
Still here to carry them.
Still here to speak them aloud.

There is something both heavy and sacred in that.

To have lived through the suddenness of loss, of fear, of change—and to still be given breath, still be given time.

What Remains

That story I came across was more than something I read.

It was a reminder.

A quiet, insistent call to attention.

To love without holding back.
To cherish without delay.
To honor even the smallest moments, because they are far more fragile than they appear.

We move through our days assuming there will be more time—more conversations, more laughter, more chances to say what we mean and do what we intend.

But time does not make those promises.

The next moment is not guaranteed.
Health is not guaranteed.
Even tomorrow is not guaranteed.

All we are ever truly given is now.

This breath.
This moment.
This fleeting, fragile slice of time.

And perhaps that is enough—if we choose to live it fully.


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