Some things are hard, hard to understand, hard to rationalize, and/or accept. But no matter how hard those things are it is necessary to sit with those things.

Making Peace with Difficult Things Is the Precursor to Growth

The road to forgiveness is not an easy one although an extremely necessary one.

But I did Nothing Wrong?

Perhaps you did nothing wrong and it’s understandable to want an apology from others for the hurt you suffered. A word of wisdom once quoted advised a shift in perspective, forgiving someone else is not for others it is for us the sufferers.

Admittedly this is not an easy thing to understand. So let’s break it down. There is freedom in forgiveness. When a victim forgives they take back their power. They no longer wait for something they may never receive or in the manner they wish to receive. So, that past hurt can no longer control how they live, respond to others, or approach life.

Nine times out of ten the sufferer is in captivity, a loop of suffering no one can feel or experience but the individual. So the sufferer must free themselves.

Forgiving Others is One Thing But Forgiving Yourself, is a Big One.

I have come to realize when looking at my life one of the biggest enslavers I ever faced is my past. Holding on to the past impeded my progress. I couldn’t go forward because the past kept pulling me back like a jack in the box attached to a spring. And I know I’m not the only one.

So many are suffering due to an inability to move forward because of tethering to past hurts

Why is it so difficult?

It is hard to free yourself from an Invisible anchor. You first have to locate the anchor and purposely release it. The difficult thing about this anchor is we create it. Its hold is strengthened by an unhealthy attachment to a past that no longer exists.

You give your past power.

So How Do you Regain Your Power?

The biggest move one can make is to accept that one’s inner child suffered, forgive, and walk forward. Because there is nothing that can be changed about the past. The only thing adjustable is one’s reaction to what was.

A Story for Your Thoughts

I’m reminded of the story of a man who had a wife whom he loved. Their future was ahead of them, bright and brilliant. All that was behind was destruction. But to obtain the future meant they would have to leave everything behind. And if they did it would mean they would not only survive but thrive. It was made perfectly clear they absolutely could not look back. Forgetting all that had been, was critical. However, this was a much more difficult task than initially realized. Because the wife was tethered to what was. She could not bring herself to not look back. And so in a single life-altering moment, she chose the tether. And in an instant, she perished. -The Story of Lot’s Wife

But we are more than conquerors and this shall not be our fate!

Remember!

The past is a dead thing that only maintains shape in your mind. So stop artificially supporting it, do not give it any more of your energy. Make peace, forgive, and move forward toward wholeness and happiness. When you do you will pull your inner child from the darkness into the light. And then you will begin to experience a wholeness allowing you to breathe your energies into molding your future.

I know you can do it because we are walking this path together. And I’m here to push you or pull you if necessary. We are stronger together.