Dream Blockers

Dream Blockers are elements or factors that obstruct or crush dreams! Some Dream Blockers are readily identifiable, while others take more time to suss out.

The first dream blocker was, distraction! However, another player is equally as detrimental, and that is (GOOP), the overwhelming desire for others to like you!

A famous aphorism amassed much attention in social circles about five years ago. “Do it for the Gram!” This turn of phrase was a goading tool to get individuals to capture whatever they were doing solely for the entertainment of others. And like good circus performers, people did the most shocking things to boost their likes. Inclusion is the name of the poison!

Nothing Abnormal to See Here

This, of course, is the exploitation of what people do daily. There are innumerable people inhabiting society who do things for likes or acceptance. Our entire social media framework exists to drive an addiction for inclusion. If the masses support what one does, they obtain approval through a thumbs up, a heart, or a doting emoticon. Ordinarily, the content developer then does more of the same to amass an even more considerable following. The opposite occurs when one’s actions are rebuffed. “We live our lives out on stages with everyone watching,” and inauthenticity is rampant.

However, this pattern of behavior is a massive detriment to long-lasting progress. “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.”- Abraham Lincoln.

Doing something purely for likes is inauthentic, and the truth will find you.

GOOP

Peter Sage referred to this type of blockade as GOOP. Good old Webster defines goop as gunk, a thick sludgy concoction making movement hard. According to Peter Sage, GOOP is the Good Opinion of Other People!

That’s right!

It is so easy to get stuck on the Good Opinion of Other People (GOOP).

A Personal Account: (My GOOP Story)

For years desiring to be liked by others was my biggest Achilles heel. My need for affirmation dug deep gashes into the sinew of my Achilles tendon, and movement in any direction was excruciating. So as promptly as I would move in one direction, I would seek the blessing of others to determine If I were on the proper path. This kept me mired in place for years!

Then, eerily I incorporated the opinion of others into my view of myself.

Someone would say, “Your craft isn’t good enough! Then I would distrust my skill. Another would say, “you aren’t worthy of that position!” Or they would ignore my accomplishments altogether. Subsequently, I challenged my worth. I would overhear; I wasn’t pretty enough! My imagination would go into overdrive. As a result, I impugned my beauty! My entire life became a self-fulfilling prophecy mired in(GOOP) The Good Opinion of Other People.

What Some Successful People Say on the Matter

“You will never rise higher than the way you see yourself!”- Joel Olsteen

As long as being liked was high on my list of priorities, I moved further from my goal. The valuation of my worth, competence, and the level of my ascension was tied up in GOOP!

Recently a painful moment forced me to re-evaluate, and I recognized how much I was hindering my advancement.

The Lesson of Goop!

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?”-Brigham Young

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. “-Eleanor Roosevelt.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” Lao Tzu

“Life is not smooth for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”- Marie Curie.

So I convey that if you crave success, you must free yourself from the GOOP, the desire to be liked, and do what your heart, soul, and mind are leading you to do!

Will Smith, in his portrayal as Chris Gardner, In the major motion film, The Pursuit of Happyness, taught viewers a valuable lesson.

In a life-altering conversation with his son, Gardner began to see he impressed his fears and beliefs on his impressionable son. However, It only took him a moment to realize he had to break the cycle to build a dynasty of long-lasting success. Looking at his son after almost robbing him of his dream he spoke,

“Don’t ever let someone tell you you can’t do something. Not even me. All right?”

You can take that to the bank!