Sometimes all one needs to hear is, yes!

There have been so many no’s, that no becomes an expectant response.

The closed doors have outnumbered the open ones.

The losses outweigh the wins.

As time passes, the no’s become weightier.

The reverberations of dejection send shockwaves throughout every portion of one’s life, and soon the fissures begin to spread and doubt seeps through.

And even when trying to be as positive as one can be about opportunities, the doubt lingers.

Fear becomes a constant companion, and every action is taken with reservation.

However, there comes a time when somewhere along the way things change, and that no becomes a yes.

What happens when one does get that yes after so many no’s?

Unfortunately, for some hearing yes after so many no’s is overwhelming.  It becomes difficult navigating how to live in the yes, walk in that yes, or accept one’s worthiness after so many no’s.

Faith dwindles, self-worth is wounded, and one’s guard is activated.

And, it is awfully hard not to pinch oneself out of fear. Because perhaps the next morning may bring disappointment.

Some find that they are not as happy as they should be, and winning somehow feels alien.

And yet, others self-sabotage themselves. They begin to feel fettered to the yes; believing that this is the only yes they will ever get, or that they are worthy of.

No matter how many no’s one has received it does not make one any less deserving or worthy of many more yeses.

Winning is something all deserve.

But, how can one change a notion that has been built over time?

One has to spend just as much time reconstructing a new conception as it was taken to form the negative perception.

This is done by;

1. Focusing on one’s worthiness.
2. Developing positive self-talk.
3. Surrounding oneself with those who build you up.
4. Reading about others who have had shared experiences and succeeded.
5. Looking at the yes, as only a beginning, not an end.

Remember, no matter how many no’s you have gotten before, it does not make you unworthy of many more yesses.

Those many no’s do not define you.

Furthermore, Just because you got one yes, doesn’t mean that you have to be tied to that yes.

Those who said no before just didn’t see your worthiness, they weren’t ready for you, and they didn’t deserve what you had to offer.

And believe that although it took you a while, there was always something so much better waiting for you.