When we are born, we are born as self-discoverers.

This must be, this is by design.

We are egocentric and with good cause.

The focal point must be on our adaptation and survival.

Our needs must be put at the center, this is required.

We simply cannot care for ourselves.

Egocentrism is typical and developmentally necessary for the child.

Before understanding the world, or others, one must understand self.

We must determine how we relate to the world.

Self-centered thinking is a process of development, as  “Childrens’ thoughts and communications are typically egocentric.”(McCleod)

The child see’s everything from his or her perspective and is unable to at the time understand the complexities of the views of others.

“As Mcleod  further notes, According to Piaget, the egocentric child assumes that other people see, hear, and feel exactly the same as the child does.”

This is essentially how we  find ourselves and what we believe.

However, the way of life is growth.

We are designed to progress from one stage of development to another.

Egocentricity, serves its purpose in our youth, but should be subdued as one grows into adulthood.

Once we find our way in the world, there are things we must learn to grow out of so that we can grow into who we are to become.

Egocentricity can develop into full blown self-absorption or what many refer to as narcissism.

This can come at an extreme detriment.

 

 

A lot of issues that we contend with stem from stunted growth, specifically failing to grow beyond that of egocentric thinking.

Our interdependent nature was by design.

We need each other.

We live in a communal earth.

we inherit collective resources such as land and water.

Thus, our survival is greatly dependent on our ability to share those resources.

Therefore, we must learn to think of others who are inhabiting the same sphere with us.

There is an abundance of resources to go around, provided that we do not become overconsumed with self.

Self-centeredness, is a blight on humanity.

 

I believe that if  one were to explore the very depths of human depravity and ruin, one could find the rot of selfishness at the very root.

There is a remedy.

 

The solution to what puzzles or confounds us most is selflessness, as such is the seedling of love in full bloom.

Selflessness

Selflessness begins with self-care and self-awareness.

At times, you must put you first, especially when replenishment of your stores are needed.

For this very reason a day of rest has been set aside, it is essential.

A day, when one  must work on building and nourishing,  to release selfishness in exchange for selflessness

 

 

You must be whole and healthy to fully give unto others.

 

An imbalanced nature is evident

Self-care and self-absorbancy (selfishness)

Many confuse self-care with self-absorbancy.

They believe that any attention on self to be selfish in nature.

Self-care and self-absorbancy are not synonymous, one must be mindful of this.

Self-care is to pay necessary attention to one’s need’s to maintain balance.

Self-absorbancy is to pay unnecessary attention to one’s want’s at the expense of others.

Self-absorbancy is seeing oneself with an over-inflated sense of importance.

 

Self-absorbancy is the epitome of selfish behaviors.

 

 

Such people have a tendency to put their wants above the needs of others.

One’s luxury becomes more important than another’s survival.

One’s comfort more vital than another’s suffering.

They absorb more than is necessary and  collect and store up for vanity sake.

 

Such often have a penchant of prefacing their thinking with an, ” what about me” attitude.

they contend for their spot at the center of the universe, as evident in their day to day practices and interactions.

They wish success for self at the expense of others.

They are marked by their cupidity, plagued with an I got mine now you get your’s mindset.

Driven to win by any means necessary without due consideration of the trickle down effect.

 

 

 

Mcleod, Saul. (2010). Preoperational Stage. SimplyPsychology. http://www.simplypsychology.org/preoperational.html