True failure is impossible.

Everyone will experience something that looks like a failure at some time in their life.

If not watched those failures can gradually become associated with feelings of fear.

Having an emotional experience following failure is inevitable.

” Everything that happens in your life affects you emotionally in some way. Everything that affects you makes you happy or sad, motivated or unmotivated, loving or angry, fearful or confident. Nothing is neutral” (Tracy)

However, It becomes essential that the emotional response is temporary and does not develop into full-fledged fear.

Fear of failure impedes desire and thus, slows progress

One of the primary ways to ensure that fear grows is to constantly dwell on that failure. Constant processing or replaying of these events send cues to the brain reminding one of the pain and hurt. Those connected memories trigger one to shield against the reoccurrence of the same injury. Essentially, the mind works to protect the person from possibly failing again. In actuality, the mind is producing a state of stasis.

This is antithetical to what one needs to succeed

 

Don’t be discouraged about feeling some type of way about a failure. It is not abnormal for one to desire to protect oneself from pain, as it is a natural inclination.

However, this is an inclination one must try to fight when dealing with trying something new and challenging, especially when the feelings of fear are attached to past failures. In one’s caution,  paranoia can set in and thus increase the likelihood of repeating past mistakes.

That is the power of the mind

The truth is that there is no way outcome, in lieu of past events, be predicted with 100% accuracy. For this to happen, that would require an environmental reference point that is exact in all factors both externally and internally. But, the world is always evolving as are you. No two situations are ever the same, and there will never be an outcome that can be precisely replicated.

There will always be changes that can be made to effect a different outcome

Even the smallest change can change the outcome.

How to take Action?

1. Avoid Negative thoughts

Negative thoughts that feed feelings of failure  further work to impede one’s progress

One must be in a position to separate him or herself from the thoughts of past mistakes to gain a more objective outlook.

2. Develop possibility-thinking.

Adopt an I can attitude to look beyond the pain that connects with past failure.

View the pain as a necessary part of growth.

3. It takes work

We are programmed to believe that an individual should avoid pain at all cost.

We are taught to think that pain is negative.

However, the athlete knows that he or she must tear down muscles before it can be strengthened.

The athlete learns this through practice, as practice and repetitive results bring about learned behavior.

No pain no gain.

Once one can disconnect the experience from pain, one can look at the past failure to learn from mistakes.

A victory energizes and stimulates action. Victories awaken warm and positive feelings that bring about euphoria through the release of endorphins, and this moves people to want to feel more of the same.

 

Positivism is a catalyst.

 

Formula Action:

Recreate the energy cycle that fed past success or that is sure is to fuel new successes.

Invest in positivity, motivational videos, webinars on success, books on succeeding.

Positivity increases energy stores empowers one to work toward committed changed

Get motivated and work!

It is the motivated person who gets back up goes back out there and becomes successful.